There is a fine, but distinct, line between confidence and arrogance.
Arrogant presenters are a turn off to the selection panel. They tend to be self-absorbed and boastful. They are more concerned with putting on a show and imposing their ideology on listeners. Arrogant presenters fail to inspire trust and come across in a way that makes the panel feel like working with them will be unpleasant.
How do you know if you are coming across arrogant? First, elicit honest feedback from others. Second, during your presentation, notice your inner dialogue. Are you self-focused? Do you find yourself “selling?” Are you telling yourself, “I am brilliant” or internally commenting negatively on your panel, “What jerks.” If you find yourself doing this, just back off and re-boot from a place of service and compassion. While it may seem silly, most of us fail to pay attention to our internal commentary. However, it does impact how we come across to others.
Working with a coach can be very helpful too. In my “Charisma Clinic” and Project Interview Excellence Workshop” I work with participants recognize when they are pushing and coming across in away that is a turn off to the panel. I then show them how to draw the audience in with confidence and an inviting demeanor.
Confident presenters have to know their stuff and have a solid grasp of their content. But beyond that, they come across approachable, likeable, and interesting to the panel. Confident presenters help the selection panel trust in their abilities and knowledge. They project the demeanor of someone who is easy to work with.
How do you know if you are coming across confident? First, elicit honest feedback from others. Second, during your presentation, notice your inner dialogue. Are you self-aware but focused on the connection with the panel? Are you telling yourself, “I am of service” or internally commenting positively on your panel, “I care about them. They are seeking to understand how I can help them.”